Wednesday, May 13, 2009

To be 17 again...


Caught the zac efron show last night with my 11 year old prince. Why did I spend good money on a lame teen flick? Well, the appropriate answer would be that I was being a good parent acceding to a son's request. But actually a part of me wanted to watch that show. Plus, it doesn't hurt that zac efron is super cute.

I wanted to see if the movie could address my curiosity on the 'second life'. Don't all of us at some point in our lives wished that we could start over again; be given a second chance to lead a different life? If only I had studied harder and got a masters or phd and be a psychologist like I always wanted to. If only I had parents and siblings who gave good advice and guided me through life instead of letting me fall again and again. And would I lead a more exciting life if I had not married or had children? I wish I had cooler friends, a cooler job and a cooler me.

The protagonist in the movie, Mike, led his life full of regrets and bitterness because he felt that life had shortchanged him through missed opportunities. Through some warped encounter, he became 17 again and realised that because of his self-absorption, he failed to see his son's struggle with self-esteem, his daughter's desperate need for love and acceptance and his wife's unhappiness with an emotionally absent husband. As with all family movie with a moral message, Mike had an epiphany - he didn't want another chance to live his life over. He needed a second chance to restore his passion for and dedication to his marriage and family. It's a lesson on wanting what you have, not having what you want. If only all of us could reach such enlightenment.

Another thing that struck me about the story is that Mike's desires and fears are so similar to our own. His fear is the fear of most middle-aged adults - mediocrity. Most of us want to experience greatness in our lives. We are afraid of being invisible, forgotten, insignificant. Sometimes, I do wonder: could I have been successful if I had chosen a different path? I guess I could but would I be happy? It's hard to tell. Not many people can handle greatness. Look at Britney Spears and George Michael. They are icons but they are such a mess.

The movie is not a hit but it does make me think deeper about life, so I supposed the $16 is money well-spent afterall. I tried to analyse the movie with older prince as I always like to do but I guess to a pre-teen, life ain't worth analysing. Wait till he's 37. He will understand some day that youth does not last forever and that life ain't simple.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

An old friend visits...

Mel is an old friend from way back in the uni days. When I first met her, I thought she looked like a very pretty Malay girl. We met through a mutual friend, Huixian. She was studying for her secretary course then. We clicked right away and that was the beginning of a string of saturday night partying, which also led to her meeting her husband.

Melinda has always been a fun-loving girl and our laughter has what you might call a 'stereo surround sound effect'. We had our first boyfriends together. Our boyfriends also knew each other. My relationship didn't last but hers did. She and her husband moved to Canada about 9 years ago, much to my dismay. She was back only once about 6 or 7 years ago, so in March when she came back for a month with her son, whom I have never met, I was estatic.

Together with Huixian and their sons, we went to the zoo, buffets, shopping, stayed overnight at rasa sentosa and had long chats. Mel has changed quite a bit and so have I. I think motherhood has made us more mellow and mature, yet we still find common things to talk and laugh about. Although we have not seen each other for years, the bond is still strong. Friends whom we grow up with will always have a special place in our hearts no matter how many new friends we make along the way or how long we have been apart. I look forward to more good times when you visit next year, Mel.


The farewell dinner at Tunglok Nobel House.
Mel still maintains her youthful figure and looks. Must be the Canada weather.



She loves this blue dress I bought for her.

Building sandcastles on the sentoa beach.
The little boys of Huixian and Melinda. Fate has it that all 3 of us have boys to torture us.

Torturing captured on camera.

Mel at the Toa Payoh foodcourt. She had cravings for beef noodles and bak chor mee and any Singaporean and Malaysian food.